P.T.C.A. …Just say NO!

Well, I’m guessing that your first question is “what on earth is P.T.C.A?” P.T.C.A is parent teacher conference anxiety. As the time approaches and the wheels begin to turn, I don’t want P.T.C.A to take over. First and foremost remember…we’re playing for the same team! I love your child. I want to do everything that I can to partner with you to help him/her continue to develop into the individual God has created him/her to be. We have some pertinent information that may be a help to you to alleviate any apprehension you may have. Let this be a chance for us to work together, and make First Grade a great year! I look forward to seeing you soon.

Conference Anxiety

Even the term "parent-teacher conference" can raise anxiety in the hearts of parents, particularly when your own mom and dad came home from such conferences with a need to "lay down the law."

What are some of the reasons for the dislike of conferences?

First, many dads and moms see parent teacher conferences as an evaluation of their parenting skills. "If my kid is having a hard time at school," we reason, "it must be because of us."

We also worry about the notions the teacher may have about us based on our children. "I can't wait to meet Cindy's mom and dad!" we imagine the teacher thinking from time to time.

Education is still overwhelming to many of us, despite the fact that most of us spent at least 13 years in the system. The teacher in most cases has the advantage over us in this setting, and we can feel a little intimidated if we don't know what to expect.

What Parents Can Do About PTC Anxiety

Relax and Get Comfortable. Maybe the upcoming conference is the first for you, or perhaps you have just let your kids' mom handle this trivial detail. Parent teacher conferences are not intimidating; in fact, teachers often go the extra mile to make sure you feel comfortable.

Talk to your child before the conference. Ask some pointed questions in a cordial interview such as "What do you like best about school this year?" and "Are there school activities that you'd like to spend more time on?"

Ask for specifics. Men, in particular, have a tendency to deal better with specifics of behavior; often our partners will be more attuned to the abstract issues. If the teacher raises positives or negatives about your child at school, ask for specific circumstances. It will help you understand the teacher's perspective as well as give you a head start on an action plan.

Use the teacher as a resource. If problems surface during the conference with your child's performance, ask the teacher for suggestions of what might help at home. Rather than being defensive, taking the approach of an active listener can be really helpful.

Make a plan and schedule a follow up. If there are issues that need addressing, take the initiative to create an action plan. Discuss what things might help the situation at home, at school, and in the student's homework time. And then set up a time in the future to come back and address the results of the plan and do some fine-tuning.

No matter how many suggestions, Parent Teacher Conferences can be stressful for both you and your child. Before attending the conference, be sure to let your children know how much you love them and that you will love them no matter what may be said. Let them know that conferences are not for the teachers to "tattle" on children, but for parents and teachers to work together to best help them succeed.

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